IntroductionRelationships, marriage and family are at the core of every community. Families are universally recognized as an important source of support and security. They can provide safe and stable environments which nurture the growth and development of each member throughout the different stages of life, from birth to old age. Show
Families are diverse and influenced by a range of factors including cultural, traditional and religious practices. Families may be classified as nuclear, extended, single-parent, child-headed, foster, or adoptive. It is important to recognize this diversity and also to recognize that people with disabilities have a right to establish their own families. Article 23, from the Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities, highlights that “States Parties shall take effective and appropriate measures to eliminate discrimination against persons with disabilities in all matters relating to marriage, family, parenthood and relationships, on an equal basis with others” (2). This element highlights the importance of supporting people with disabilities to establish relationships, marry and become parents if they choose. It also highlights the issue of violence that people with disabilities may experience within their relationships, marriages and families, and the importance of recognizing and addressing this issue. BOX 8MalawiA courageous journey to motherhood
GoalPeople with disabilities fully realize their positions and roles within their families and communities. The role of CBRThe role of CBR is to support people with disabilities to have fulfilling relationships with members of their families and communities. Desirable outcomes
Key conceptsRelationshipsFulfilling personal relationships are important to everyone and are essential for personal growth and development. Stimulating, lasting and satisfying relationships with family, friends and partners are a high priority for most people, including people with disabilities. FamilyBelonging to a familyThe word “family” can mean different things to different people. Families come in many shapes and sizes but something that they all have in common is that they provide a sense of belonging. Families can also provide an environment for learning and development and provide safety and security for children and vulnerable family members including people with disabilities. Family responses to disabilityEvery family responds differently to disability. One family may find it difficult to accept the birth of a child with an impairment, but another may simply be afraid and need more information about what the future holds, while a third may celebrate the birth of their child. Families can be effective advocates and powerful agents of change to ensure the inclusion of people with disabilities. They can have a positive influence on the expectations of family members with disabilities and also influence the attitudes of the community. SexualitySexuality is an important part of health and well-being. However, in many societies discussion of the subject is sensitive and even taboo, particularly as it relates to disability, around which myths and misconceptions may go unchallenged. For example, people with disabilities are often viewed as being asexual, infertile, or as having overly high sex drives; these views may not only be held by community members but also by medical professionals and in some case people with disabilities themselves. It is important to be aware that people with disabilities have sexual needs, as does everyone else. The unfortunate reality is however that these needs are either ignored or denied (see Supplementary booklet on CBR and HIV/AIDS). BOX 9UgandaMisconceptionsA female youth member of a disabled people's organization in Uganda, the National Union of Disabled Persons of Uganda (NUDIPU), noted “We are not invited to these community outreach programmes which are always held at health centres....in fact, people think that we are not sexually active because we are disabled”. Marriage and parenthoodIt is often assumed that people with disabilities will automatically have children with disabilities. There is also a common belief that people with disabilities will not be able to care for and support their children independently. In extreme cases, people with disabilities, particularly adolescent girls and women with intellectual impairment, have been sterilized without their knowledge or consent. The Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities, Article 23, refers to marriage and parenthood, to the rights of persons with disabilities to: marry and found a family, decide freely and responsibly on the number and spacing of their children, have access to age-appropriate information, reproductive and family planning education, and to retain their fertility (2). BOX 10Wanting a family“I have a dream of getting married, having a home with children, but my parents told me that marriage is not for me because I would not be able to look after a family. I was shattered with disbelief” (5). ViolenceViolence can occur in every part of society, within families and institutions, and in schools, workplaces, and the community; many different people are responsible. People with disabilities are disproportionately susceptible to violence, particularly because of stigma, negative traditional beliefs and ignorance; they are at increased risk of becoming victims of physical, sexual, psychological and emotional abuse, neglect, and financial exploitation. Women with disabilities may be particularly exposed to forced sterilization and sexual violence (6). Suggested activitiesChallenge and address stigma, prejudice and discriminationNegative attitudes, perceptions and practices towards people with disabilities are present in many communities. CBR programmes can challenge and address these by:
BOX 11LiberiaExploring sexuality and disability issuesA CBR programme managed by a local nongovernmental organization in Liberia realized they had never addressed issues related to sexuality and disability. The programme set out to learn about these issues by holding discussions with people with disabilities. Discussions with women with disabilities showed that being able to express their sexuality was important; however, they were often fearful of doing this. They also thought that sex was important for them so they could become mothers, which was a valued social role in their communities. In some instances non-disabled men had sexually abused women with disabilities. It was perceived that this abuse was caused by negative attitudes towards disability that resulted in men thinking that a public relationship with a woman with disabilities would stigmatize them. Provide support for parentsTo enable parents to make good parenting decisions, access to information and support is needed. CBR programmes should consider both parents with disabilities and parents of people with disabilities.They can provide support by:
Work with families to promote independenceSometimes families overprotect their members with disabilities by sheltering them in the home and preventing them from socializing in the community, thus limiting their opportunities to develop relationships with others or to develop various skills and abilities. CBR programmes can work with families to:
Help to prevent violenceViolence of any type can be a challenging issue for CBR personnel. As CBR programmes work across different environments (e.g. homes, schools, workplaces, communities) they are in a good position to ensure that strong social networks and supports are in place to protect people with disabilities from violence (see also Justice). CBR programmes can:
Support people with limited social networksSome people with disabilities may not have families, or their families may not be able to provide them with the support and assistance they need. So some people with disabilities live in residential institutions, hostels, religious communities or sheltered housing, or are homeless. In these situations, CBR programmes can:
What are the family beliefs?Family beliefs are the shared and collective judgments and prejudices that appear in a family grouping.
How does family influence your beliefs?Your family can mold your personality and values in a variety of subtle and direct ways. From teaching you what's good and bad, right and wrong, to helping you develop relationships with your peers. However, their impact on your values doesn't necessarily have to be positive or congruent with who you grow up to be.
What is your own concept of a family explain?Family: A family is a group of two or more persons related by birth, marriage, or adoption who live together; all such related persons are considered as members of one family.
Why is the family important to individuals personally?These bonds are important because family helps us get through the most disastrous times and the best times. Family is important because they can offer support and security coupled with unconditional love; they will always look to see and bring out the best in you even if you cannot see it for yourself.
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